When first trying out a vibrator, many people simply go straight for the clit, or if it's an insertable vibrator, straight for the vagina. Everybody's different. Experiment with using the vibrator on different parts of your clit, vulva, and vagina, and discover what feels best. You may find you like a few different things. Try adding some lubricant to improve your sensation.

You might have a vibrator that doesn't provide the right kind of stimulation for you. Maybe you need one that gives less intense or more intense stimulation. If you think the vibrator you have might be too intense, try using it through your clothing, or through a towel or blanket. If your vibrator feels like it barely buzzes, try getting a more powerful electrical one, such as a Hitachi Magic Wand.

Consider when and how you're using the vibrator. Are you relaxed and in the right frame of mind for a sensual experience? Remember, for women in particular, arousal has way more to do with where you are mentally than what's happening to your body. Make a special time to use your vibrator, when you know you won't be disturbed, and give yourself the luxury of exploring and letting go. Get yourself in the mood: read some tasteful erotica, watch a dirty video, or just fantasize...whatever you prefer, there are lots of options out there. It's often said that the biggest sex organ is between your ears. You can't just flip the switch and expect the vibrator to do all the work.